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Every day, somewhere in this city
are five people you'd
actually want to know

But a profile was never the fix.
Feeling understood is.

We start with
who you actually are.

Nine paragraphs, rated honestly. Not a label — a tritype, which is the part that predicts who you'll get on with.

Designed with university & professionally tested psychology
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I've always felt a little different from everyone else. There's a part of me nobody quite reaches, and I'd rather be genuinely understood by one person than liked by a room.

Sounds like me 4 Mostly 3 Somewhat 2 Not at all 1
Maya & Spy iMessage · 3 people
Spy

Your tritype came out 4–7–1. That's a specific kind of person.

is that bad

Maya

It's rare. It also means small talk bores you, so I won't do any.

Spy

What's something you've never told anyone — not because it's a secret?

I can't swim lol

Spy

If you had 24 hours to live, what would you do?

Maya

Sky dive without a parachute!

iMessage

Then Spy
keeps asking.

A real question dropped into your thread every few texts — 151 of them, never the same one twice. The answers go to the matching, not onto a profile.

Answered by text

A simple chat,
over a complex web of logic —
that we share openly with you.

Spy runs multiple scoring models in parallel and adds guardrails to help you find the right match.

Go deeper before
you say yes.

Ask about their values, habits, and communication style. Spy only shares what it knows, so you can see beyond the profile.

Their profile Shared with you
Maya Maya28 · 4–7–1

Values

DestinyConviction CuriosityWonder CraftIntensity BelongingHospitality MasteryIconoclasm

Theme song

NightcallKavinsky

In their words

I will absolutely cook for you and then be quietly devastated if you don't finish it.

The rest

AttachmentSecure Love languageActs, then Time IntoGym · Cafes · Vinyl Height168 cm Looking forSomething that lasts

Only what
you share.

Values they picked in sign-up, the song they chose, how they answer. No guesses, no scores, nothing invented to fill a gap.

Shared with consent

A mutual yes,
and the date's set.

Spy automatically books the spot, and hands you to a group chat, right up until you meet.

Spy active now

Hey!! i found another match, lmk what you think??

yes

do you want to know about their communication style, hobbies, values??

i'm interested in their values

so should i send them your profile? Just say yes or no

YES!

Message Spy…
Spy active now

Good news!
You both said yes 🎉

I found a quiet wine bar, Thursday at 7. Want me to book it?

yes!! please do

Message Spy…

Go deeper before
you say yes.

Ask about their values, habits, and communication style. Spy only shares what it knows, so you can see beyond the profile.

Our mission

We win when
you actually meet someone.

No app, no swipes, no reason to keep you on your phone. Daily matches.

Spy, Washington DC

Why Spy

01

Spy learns what you actually want.

People are bad at describing their own type. We find the gap between your checklist and who's right for you.

02

Good matches, not endless swiping.

Choice overload degrades selection, so we deliver curated matches, not an infinite feed.

03

We know what keeps couples together.

Shared values and how you handle conflict matter far more than height or job.

04

We look past the spark.

Instant chemistry often just means someone feels familiar, not that they're good for you.

05

We focus on what makes love last.

Attachment, communication, and values drive real outcomes, not demographic filters.

06

We pay attention to self-awareness.

People repeat patterns until they can see them. That's the strongest sign of growth.

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